When life bitch-slaps you, smack it back.Posted: July 9, 2010
Ayn Rand I am not.
I don’t like philosophy; I hardly have an introspective bone in my body; for every one part serious I’m nine parts sarcastic, and I’d much rather babble about food than feelings.
That said, humor me for the next five minutes.
Shit happens; we stand there, heads spinning, completely forgetting about the things we’ve bounced back from before. We forget our own strength and our own resiliency. We forget about who we are beyond the wounded and emotional creature that is currently sorting out more thoughts than a schizophrenic.
We try so hard to put on a brave face that we forget to be kind to ourselves. “Wallow” becomes a four letter word, and we get tunnel vision for a point in the (presumably near) future where things are “back to normal”.
What we forget, though, is that sometimes, moving forward requires looking back. When what we know is shattered, we can cling to who we are and immerse ourselves in who we want to be.
When all you want is “me time”, you have to identify what “me” needs.
For me, that was a night of crappy White Zin, marginally tasteless Mongolian food, and three hours of conversation with a best friend that made the entire tab worth it.
That was massive amounts of coffee.
That was F. Scott Fitzgerald and chocolate chip cookies.
That was a four mile run with Paramore.
That was changing out of the Asics and into a pair of four inch Charles David sandals.
That was an interstate drive with the windows down and the radio up.
That was a late night out followed by an early night in.
That was forgoing the salad because what you really wanted was a double serving of pasta.
That was soaking up hugs from ten year olds who love on you just because you love on them.
That was sneaking away from the same students and their nature hike leaders to spend a few minutes off the trail in downward dog, soaking up the sun and the fact that you feel incredibly peaceful and happy.
What is “that” for you?
And with that, I promise not to subject you to any more pseudo-philosophical ramblings for a long, long, LONG time!